I want to have more love in my life.
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The other day I was on a train. A young American guy got in.
His girlfriend was on the platform.
They were looking at each other as if there were nobody else in the world.
When the door closed, I saw her lips moving. I love you! “ I love you!“
How romantic ! It made me smile because I knew like cherry blossoms, it won’t last long.
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Romantic love is different from real love. Is your life filled with love?
When I was about 40 years old. My life was not filled with love. It was filled with anger, frustration, and disappointment.
I was teaching English. I spent so much time preparing for the class but students didn’t.
“How come they study harder?”
My son was a teenager, and he was always talking back to me.
His favorite phrase was
“ Who cares! “
My husband never helped me at home.
I was not happy lucky Martha. I was unhappy angry Martha.
Then one day I received a small package from my American friend.
It was a tape. It was a recording of a sermon of her church. It says” Real love”
I started listening to it. There was a soft music and meditation.
I don’t have time for this! Get to the point. I skipped it.
Then there was a voice of a man. He was interesting. I kept listening, and listening, and listening.
When the tape was over, all my anger was washed away. I felt so peaceful.
My heart was filled with love. Would you like to hear what he said?
He talked about anger.
He said, every time we get angry at someone, we feel less happy and our relationships suffer every single time , yet we get angry again the next time.
Why do we do that ? Why do we keep doing things that never work?
Yes! My ears were like Dumbo. Tell me!
He says, we think we know the reason. It’s because of the other person.
I am mad at you because of what you did. If you haven’t done it I wouldn’t be mad.
Yes, exactly. That is how I feel.
Then he said something I never expected.
It is not about them It’s all about us.
We get angry because we don’t feel enough real love.
What is REAL LOVE?
Real love is I care about your happiness without wanting anything from you in return.
Real love is not I do what you want and you like me.
Real love is when I am stupid, when I screw up, when I’m in your way , and you don’t feel irritated and disappointed with me.
That’s very hard!
He said, since we were children, when we are quiet, obedient, doing all the right thing, they will smile at us and speak gently.
However, when we make a lot of noise, fight with brothers, bring a bad grade, then there was no smile.
That taught us a lesson. When you are good I love you but when you are not , I don’t.
When we get angry we can always find something about them that is wrong and find things that we are right.
Would you rather be happy or right?
I stopped, thought, and replyed.
I want to be happy. I want to have more real love in my life.
So whenever I was getting angry, I admitted I was wrong.
It was difficult but there was always someting to improve in my side.
I started to talk more gently, I started to be more patient.
Ladies and gentlemen, that was the moment Unhappy Angry Martha decided to become Happy Loving Martha.
My life changed since then.
Real love is caring about others without wanting anything from them in return.
Do you want to be happy or right?
Because most of the time you can only choose one of them.